5 Basic Emotions

Happy

Sad

Angry

Hurt 

Scared

Our emotions are gifts that allow us to experience the fullness of life and connection! They are signals along the way drawing our attention to things that matter.

Empathy

Empathy

 ✨ Magic ✨ in a parent's tool belt. When our kids REALLY truly deeply believe we get them, peace fills their bodies and they are ready to learn and grow. 

Shame Shaking and Self Acceptance

 

🖐🏼How easy is it to sit in a puddle of shame and 

👉🏼self blame👈🏼 and how bad does it feel?!

I am not alone and neither are you! We are all on a journey learning and will continue to be imperfect on this side of heaven.

We are all kids before God. We can do for ourselves just what we want for our kids.

Acknowledge *I did that and wish I didn't and I'm sorry. 

Make up *Can I get you water? Make a sorry card? Take your dishes? Clean up the mess?

And then remain open for love and growth 💖. By speaking to ourselves kindly reminding ourselves that we are learning and of course we will make mistakes like everyone else and by sharing our failures with others who will say "me too" and I love you. 

Detachment

 

It is okay and good to detach from our children's problems. Detaching in parenting means deeply caring while allowing our kids to live their own beautiful and messy lives. When we detach, our kids get to feel their own feelings about their behavior instead of our feelings. Kids in touch with themselves--what feels good and bad are kids ready to learn and receive the daily lessons from life.

Our loving detachment is the first step in teaching self control.

Paradigm Shift

 They're not out to get you.

They're not just trying to get away with whatever they can.

With their behavior-good and bad-they are speaking to you about what they need. 

They need you to show them how to get it in ways that feel right and true...because they are right and true.

Reactivity

 If we can 

✨Notice ✨ our reactivity we are well on our way to learning to self calm.

When we are calm inside they feel SO much calmer inside.

When we can find calm we are then at choice about our behavior.

When they can find calm then they are at choice about their behavior.

✨We go first.✨

Common Fears and Misconceptions: True Power

 Positive Parenting has me feeling SO Powerful as I lead my family with tools that work and deeply connect us!